Polyamory Myths Debunked and How It Can Save Your Marriage.

Posted by Jenny on Sep 19, 2020

Definition of Polyamory

Polyamory is the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the informed consent of all partners involved. It has been described as "consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy". People who identify as polyamorous believe in an open relationship with a conscious management of jealousy; they reject the view that sexual and relational exclusivity are necessary for deep, committed, long-term loving relationships.

Most people in committed relationships truly believe that couples who partake in a polyamorous lifestyle are actually just "cheaters" and sex addicts, but nothing could be further from the truth, infact, couples in polyamorous relationships tend to have stronger and more fulfilling relationships that couples who are in monogamous relationships.

Let's Start From the Beginning, What is Polyamory?

Polyamory (or ethical non-monogamy) is the practice of maintaining more than one open sexual relationship at a time without keeping any of these relationships hidden from any of your partners; basically, people in polyamorous relationships have the consent of their partners to have sexual relationships with other people as long as everyone involved is aware of all of these relationships.

Polyamory Myths Debunked

Myth #1: Polyamory is a form of cheating!

Although most people who are not familiar with the lifestyle believe that those who participate in Polyamory are compulsive cheaters that only care about their own sexual needs and desires, but this is 100% false!

Truth: Polyamory is not a form of cheating; Cheating involves feelings of betrayal, and people who practice polyamory have the consent of their romantic partner, to have consensual sex with other individuals, or couples, who also are aware that they are currently involved in sexual relationships with others.

Myth #2: Polyamory people are unethical & lack morals & values!

The Truth: Polyamorous people are actually extremely ethical and encourage healthy morals and values for their relationships including, trust, communication, respect, and consent.

Myth #3: Polyamorous people are always HORNY for group sex!

The Truth: Sure, many polyamorous folk love a sexy threesome, foursome, 20-some, which is totally fine, but not every person in the polyam lifestyle is down for multiple-lover sexual interactions; a lot of poly folk prefer having a policy where they have sex with just one person at a time, while some polyams are asexual and don’t engage in any sex whatsoever.

Myth #4: Polyamorous relationships lack depth so feelings of jealousy are impossible for them to have!

The Truth: Jealousy is a condition that affects ALL humans, polyamorous or not; just because polyams can love more than one person at a time doesn't mean that they're immune to envy.

Myth #5: Polyamory is a sex free-for-all!

The Truth: Polyamorous relationships require CONSENT from everyone involved, so if someone wants to sleep with someone else they're required to get consent from their current lovers beforehand.

Myth #6: Polyamorous people hate being in committed relationships!

The Truth: Most polyamorous people are in committed relationships, generally they are in multiple committed relationships at the same time, so in fact, polyamorous people are NOT commitment-phobic whatsoever!

How Can Polyamory Save Your Marriage?

I know that most people reading this right now probably think that polyamory would destroy a marriage, but in fact, polyamory can actually help save a marriage that's on the fritz for the below reasons:

Reason #1: Polyamory Keeps The LOVE Alive!

Not only with sex, but in these types of relationships, they know how to have fun and really have a deep understanding of what it means to be together!

Reason #2: Polyamory Focuses More Friendship Than Sex!

Friendship lies at the root of these types of relationships that places a very string emphasis on consent, respect, trust, and finally, and most importantly, communication.

Reason #3: Polyamorous Relationships are EXTREMELY Supportive!

I believe that polyamorous relationships are some of the most loving relationships in the world because of how supportive they are! While there might be some obvious complications, what relationships aren't complicated right, just because being in a relationship with three or more people can be difficult, the support there is impeccable to say the least!

Reason #4: Polyamorous Relationships Lessens Sexual Pressures!

One amazing benefit of polyamorous relationships is that they lessen the pressure your partner puts on you to have sex with them as well as the pressure you place on your partner for sex; if you or your partner isn’t the mood to have sex then you have someone else in your life that you can have sex with.

Reason #5: Polyamory Expand Options for Intimate Relating!

Polyamorous relationships can actually expand on how you relate to other people intimately; this type of relationship forces you to open up a lot and honestly, that is one of the top benefits of a polyamorous relationship!

Reason #6: Co-operative living at its finest!

While not a rule, plenty of polyamorous couples get along so well that they all live together, sharing the workload, parenting and bills

Imagine working all day and coming home to your wife and your girlfriend (or husband and boyfriend) already home , kids already bathed and ready for bed , dinner is cooked , dishes done and those all-important errands having already been run while you have been out so all you have to do is sit back on the couch and relax with a glass of wine.

As they say “ Many hands make light work “ and with a polyamorous relationship a stress free life is indeed possible.